Field guide · What goes wrong

Anti-Patterns

The recognizable failures of hosting, named so you can catch them mid-evening. Each has a repair; most are palette moves.

The catalog

Grouped by where in the evening they strike. Naming one — silently, to yourself — is half the repair; the moves do the rest. The eight opening failures live with the opening forms and are listed last.

The opening eight

The first ninety seconds have their own catalog, kept with the opening forms they shadow:

Anti-patternFailure modeRepair
Every anti-pattern is a good instinct running unsupervised: thoroughness becomes the Over-Plan, warmth the Hedge, wit the Deflating Joke. The repair is never less instinct — it is supervision.

Try it now

Three rounds of Give the Order — the repair for the two most common steering anti-patterns. Out loud.